And it came to pass, when he had made an end of speaking unto Saul, that the soul of Jonathan was knit with the soul of David, and Jonathan loved him as his own soul. And Saul took him that day, and would let him go no more home to his father’s house. Then Jonathan and David made a covenant, because he loved him as his own soul. And Jonathan stripped himself of the robe that was upon him, and gave it to David, and his garments, even to his sword, and to his bow, and to his girdle. ~1 Samuel 18:1-4
As I sat here thinking on what to write on, I started thinking of friendships. True friendships. I have heard my husband tell me and others of what his Mom would tell him, Tony, if you have ONE true friend you have more than a lot of other people ever have, and that is true. I know all of us married women can say that our husband’s are our best friends and they should be. There are times though we need that woman companionship to. And also in our ministry we need to be a true friend to the ladies that the Lord has entrusted us to be with.
We all know the story of David and Jonathan in 1 Samuel 18. Here is just a little bit of a lesson on how to be that friend to someone that really needs you.
1. A friend ACCEPTS you just the way you are. (v. 1a) And it came to pass, when he had made an end of speaking unto Saul, that the soul of Jonathan was knit with the soul of David
We all know that Jonathan came from the royal line and David, well, he smelled like sheep. They were TOTALLY different. Jonathan didn’t have to act like a shepherd and David didn’t have to act like a prince. They were themselves. Even though they were totally different, their hearts were knit together. They had that kindred spirit. They were bound together. You don’t have to put on an act for someone to be your friend. If you have to put on an act, then they weren’t your true friend to start with. A true friend will accept you “just the way you are.”
Question: What are some ways that women change so that others will “accept” them?
2. A friend LOVES you with all that is within them. (v. 1b) and Jonathan loved him as his own soul.
David and Jonathan’s relationship was not an improper one as some people want to make it out to be. Love is not only for marriage. When you love someone with all your heart you care what they are going through. You want to be there for them and help them no matter what. Some will cease to be your friend when things become difficult. They won’t talk with you, they will push you to the side. They are afraid you are going to judge them. David and Jonathan went through trying times with Saul. Jonathan never stopped loving David. And David never stopped loving Jonathan.
Question: How can NOT loving yourself affect your friendships with others?
3. A friend is COMMITTED to you no matter what. (v. 3) Then Jonathan and David made a covenant, because he loved him as his own soul.
Verse three says that Jonathan and David made a covenant. A covenant is more than a promise, it is a life and death guarantee. They basically said to each other no matter what, through life and death we will be there for each other. Are you the type of friend that you are committed to your friends through whatever circumstances may come? David was so committed to Jonathan that after Jonathan’s death, David took care of his son , Mephibosheth.
Question: How are you committed to your friends? How can you show your friends that you are there no matter what?
4. A friend SACRIFICES for your success. (v. 4) And Jonathan stripped himself of the robe that was upon him, and gave it to David, and his garments, even to his sword, and to his bow, and to his girdle.
Jonathan took all his royal garments and gave them to David. If people saw the two of them together, they would have thought that David was the king! Jonathan was in line to be king, yet he stepped aside so that David could take his rightful place. Are you the type of friend that will sacrifice for your friend to succeed? Are you ok with taking a backseat while someone else gets the glory? A true friend will want to help build her sister’s name. We need to be the type of friend to motivate others to fulfill what God has for their life.
Question: How are you helping your friends accomplish God’s will for their life? David was ordained of God to be king and Jonathan helped.
Like I said just a short little lesson on being a true friend to help others achieve what God has for their life. Are you that type of friend that when your time comes that someone can look back and say, she helped me to love more, to give more and to live for Christ more?