Ditch this “Beauty Don’t”

Right attitudeMy attitude makes a difference. I’m sure we all agree with that statement, but when we’re squeezed with the tough stuff of life, knowing a fact isn’t as important as making the right choice and living it out.

I love how God works. I’ve been going through a Bible study with one of the teen girls in our Sunday school class (Beauty by the Book for Teens; by Laurie Cole, Priority Ministries). You probably guessed it – even though the study is geared toward teens, it’s exactly what I’ve needed.

Not very attractive

This week’s lessons are about what Laurie Cole refers to as the “Irritating Woman.” This woman’s profile is less than appealing: she nags, complains, and is just plain crabby. Chances are you look for the nearest escape route when she’s around. As beauty do’s and don’ts go, she’s definitely a “beauty don’t”.

Proverbs has a lot to say about this woman – and it’s not pleasant:

…and the contentions of a wife are a continual dropping. Proverbs 19:13b

It is better to dwell in a corner of the housetop, than with a brawling woman in a wide house. Proverbs 21:9

It is better to dwell in the wilderness, than with a contentious and an angry woman. Proverbs 21:19

It is better to dwell in the corner of the housetop, than with a brawling woman and in a wide house. Proverbs 25:24

A continual dropping in a very rainy day and a contentious woman are alike. 16 Whosoever hideth her hideth the wind, and the ointment of his right hand, which bewrayeth itself. Proverbs 27:15-16

The leaky faucet

Can you picture it? If you’ve ever dealt with a leaky faucet you have some idea of the nature of this gal. There is an underlying tension that causes her to spit out her opinions constantly. She does so in an argumentative way and she just won’t stop.

It’s easy to see why this woman is irritating. She’s contentious, brawling, and angry. And I’m sure you noticed the Lord says the poor guy who is married to her is better off alone. Did that get your attention? Mine too.

Choosing your attitude

Marriage requires that we work on our attitude (click to tweet). No matter what type of ministry our husband is involved in (missionary, Sunday school teacher, deacon, etc.) it’s crucial that we support him with a good attitude.

Here are some ways to ditch the Irritating Woman and become the Encouraging Woman God wants you to be:

*Admit to and turn from your desire to control

Unto the woman he said, I will greatly multiply thy sorrow and thy conception; in sorrow thou shalt bring forth children; and thy desire shall be to thy husband, and he shall rule over thee. Genesis 3:16

*Stay close to God

Draw nigh to God, and he will draw nigh to you. James 4:8a

*Talk to God

Pray without ceasing. 1 Thess. 5:17

*Think before you speak

Let the words of my mouth, and the meditation of my heart, be acceptable in thy sight, O Lord, my strength, and my redeemer. Psalm 19:14

*Respect your husband

Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband. Ephesians 5:33


How is your attitude? Are there characteristics of the Irritating Woman lingering in your life? What step will you take today to become an Encouraging Woman?

Prayer: Heavenly Father, Forgive me for wanting things my way in my marriage – for nagging and complaining rather than being the helper You’ve created me to be. Help me remember what Your Word says about the Irritating Woman and through Your Holy Spirit to choose to be an encourager of my husband. Thank You for the life-changing power of Your Word. In Jesus’ name, Amen.

Maria I. Morgan in an inspirational writer and speaker. She is the award-winning author of Louie’s BIG day! Regardless of the age of her audience, her goal is the same: to share God’s truth and make an eternal difference. Now Available on Amazon: Outrageously Fruitful (a 10-week Bible study for women on the fruit of the Spirit)


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  • 6 thoughts on “Ditch this “Beauty Don’t”

      1. Thank you for your kind words, Beth! Definitely a lesson I need to keep revisiting. God bless you as you minister to your family and the ladies in Bolivia.

      1. Thank you for commenting, Micaela! As a newly-wed, I’m sure you and Daniel have only had sweet words for one another, right?! This topic continues to be one I need to revisit often. So thankful for the grace of God! Blessings ~

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