People often say, “If you can count all your true friends on one hand, you’re a blessed person”. I don’t think that’s in the Bible, but God does let us know through his Word that our friendships are important to Him. So let’s talk about friendship: what it means, how to get the right friends, and how to be a good friend.
Webster’s Dictionary defines the word friend as…”one attached to another by affection or esteem”. So if we call someone a friend, there is an emotional attachment to that person. Facebook should probably use the word “acquaintance” instead of friend, because a lot of times we have people on our friend list who we barely know. And that’s ok. It’s good to have a lot of acquaintances. But we shouldn’t take lightly calling someone “friend”.
The Bible says in James 4:4 that friendship with the world is enmity with God. Remember our definition of the word friend – one attached to another by affection or esteem. If we are a children of God, we should not be friends with this world. We should feel uncomfortable, unattached here on Earth.
In James 2:23 Abraham was called the friend of God. We should desire to be like Abraham. If we get this part right, everything else will fall into place. Seek ye first the kingdom of God. If we aren’t walking with God – reading his Word and living by His principles, then we won’t be able to get anything right, especially friendship.
Check out these friendship reminders:
- It’s important to have the right kind of friends!
- Our friends have a lot of influence over us. (Proverbs 13:20, 22:24-25; I Corinthians 5:11)
- Our friends affect our testimony. The phrase “you are who you run with” is used in many languages.
- There are different levels of friendships: acquaintance, casual friend, close friend, best friend. Not everyone will be our best friends.
- As we build confidence and trust with a friend, we should try to center our conversations on things that matter.
- Our friends should encourage us to do right. (Proverbs 27:17)
- If we want to make friends, we should be friendly. (Proverbs 18:24)
- If you’re a teenager and you have a godly Mom, let her be your friend. She loves you more than your friends do. She’s smarter, she’s wiser, and she desires blessings for you more than any other friend you have. Don’t forget Mom!
- Being a good friend requires work.
- We should put our friend’s needs above our own. (Philippians 2:3)
- We must resolve problems biblically with our friends. (Matthew 18:15)
- It’s great to try to avoid problems all together. Learn to let things go for the sake of your friendship. (Matthew 5:39)
- Let’s watch how we talk with our friends. Every time we open our mouth, it’s an opportunity to sin.
- We should bear our friend’s burdens. (Galatians 6:2)
- We should be a good listener. (James 1:19)
- We can enjoy rejoicing with our friends when they have a victory.
- Our friends need encouragement. (Proverbs 27:17)
- We need to keep our friend’s secrets. (Proverbs 20:19)
- Our friends need prayer.
- We should be honest and speak up to our friend when the time is right. (Proverbs 27:9)
If we remember these things, we can be the friend God wants us to be and we can surround ourselves with great people too!