The Importance of Family
Proverbs 14:1 Every wise woman builds her house: but the foolish plucketh it down with her hands.
~The wise woman is constantly in a state of, learning, applying, and sharing what she has learned with others.
~A wise woman builds her house/home knowing that she is building up her family not just the physical house. The reason for doing this is to bring maximum Glory and honor to the Lord.
But how will she do this?
She will first build her relationship with God
I alone am responsible for my relationship with God. Matthew 6:33 When we love God above all else, and seek him first it causes all other areas of life to fall into order.
She builds her relationship with her husband.
I alone can be wife to my husband- Daddy comes first
A. Leave and cleave- Gen. 2:24, Eph. 5:31 – the first concept we must grasp is leaving (loosen, relinquish, forsake) the world and cleaving to Christ
-leave emotionally and physically- My husband took this advice to the extreme and moved us across the world!;)
B. Become One- family unit means “unity” spiritually, emotionally, intellectually, socially. These things take work and are not automatic upon getting married.
-oneness or unity results from mature love, it takes time and hard work- 1 cor. 13:1-7)
a. communication is key- make time, be a good listener, make sure to be meditating on the right things, what goes in, comes out. Rom 12:2- communicate with a renewed mind. How? Phil. 4:8. Saturate yourself with Scripture
b. commitment-maintain and strengthen your commitment by connecting emotionally, physically, spiritually, and intellectually
c. covenant– marriage is a covenant or promise, not something to be taken lightly. It is a big responsibility.
C. Remember the primary purpose of marriage:
“marriage is a picture of Christ and his church to the world. A picture of his love demonstrated to mankind. It requires us to be constantly maturing in our Christian character and walk with God. We need to do our best to not taint that image by our actions and attitudes. God’s love is perfect and sacrificial, unconditional and eternal. While the love in our marriage will not ever be perfect, we should strive to perfect it, protect it, and profess it.”
D. Be Careful – Satan wants to attack our marriages and families in any way he can.
1. Outside influences- Family, friends, heritage, culture, etc. that are contrary to the Bible
2. Ignorance of the structural plan for marriage (Col. 3:18-21, Eph 5:22)
She builds her Children -I alone am mother to my children
Focus on the Spiritual and not the Physical by using everyday moments and activities as opportunities to Teach. Create Opportunities where they can learn and grow alongside you (ministries)
~Train by your Example
~Be constantly developing your own character
Nurture and Admonish -to help develop, grow or succeed (Eph. 6:4)
~ create a safe, nurturing environment where you can help build little Christ-followers
~ guard their little hearts!
Children obey your parents (Col. 3:20)
~ Why should they? To make me look good, to make my life more comfortable?
~ No. Because it pleases the Lord and points your children to Christ for grace and forgiveness. Don’t be afraid to let them see mommy fail and be a recipient of God’s amazing grace as well!
Parents provoke not to anger. (Col. 3:21)
~ Remember that admonition means ‘gentle reproof, counsel, and direction.’ Emphasis on the word gentle. Sometimes I forget the gentle side of parenting!;) we are here to guide them towards a relationship with the Lord.
~ We are given a beautiful example of discipline (Christ towards his children) in Hebrews 12:5-11. He chastens and invests himself into those that he loves, just as we do with our children.
Above all, we need to remember our family’s purpose: to bring honor and glory to God and point others to Christ!
From my family to yours,