How many of you have said something and then regretted it? Have any of you ever gossiped? I know we’re all in the same boat. Our tongues aren’t very big, but they can sure cause a lot of problems!
The book of James has some pretty tough things to say about our tongues: And the tongue is a fire, a world of iniquity: so is the tongue among our members, that it defileth the whole body, and setteth on fire the course of nature; and it is set on fire of hell. (James 3:6)
James goes on to say from the same mouth comes both blessing and cursing. Today we’re going to talk about being peacemakers and choosing to bless others with our words.
What is a peacemaker?
Peacemaker: somebody who brings peace and reconciliation to others
1. Ultimate example is Christ – His sacrifice made peace between us and a Holy God
2. Our role as believers
a. Great commission
Mark 16:15 And he said unto them, Go ye into all the world,
and preach the gospel to every creature.
b. We are ambassadors for Christ
1 Thess. 2:4 But as we were allowed of God to be put in trust with the gospel, even so we speak; not as pleasing men, but God, which trieth our hearts.
What it looks like
1. In our homes (wives often referred to as the Holy Spirit of the home – we set the tone of the atmosphere)
a. How are we treating our husband?
1 Cor. 11:8-9 For the man is not of the woman; but the woman of the man. Neither was the man created for the woman; but the woman for the man.
Prov. 31:12 She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.
2. Submission – placing yourself under the authority of your husband
Eph. 5:22, 24 Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. 24 Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing.
3. Reverence – respect
Eph. 5:33 Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband.
4. Kind & Wise
Pro. 31:26 She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness.
b. How are we treating our children? What are we teaching them?
1. Nurturing– encourage them to flourish
Ephesians 6:4 And ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.
Eph. 4:15 But speaking the truth in love, may grow up into him in all things, which is the head, even Christ:
Col. 3:21 Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.
3. Kind & Wise (Pro. 31:26 – see verse above)
2. At church/with the body of believers
1. Christ desires unity so He can be the focus
Psalm 133:1 Behold, how good and how pleasant it is for brethren
to dwell together in unity!
2. The enemy will do what he can to cause disunity
Dividing or Uniting?
1. The wrong words (3 C’s & a G speech to avoid)
a. example of Nabal (1 Samuel 25:10-12) – notice David’s response
1. contentious – cause disagreement; argumentative 2. complain
2. The right words (3 B speech – coined from Laurie Cole)
a. example of Abigail (1 Samuel 25:24-31) – notice David’s response
1. build – edify; build up and spiritually profit
Eph. 4:29 Let no corrupt communication proceed out of your mouth, but that which is good to the use of edifying, that it may minister grace unto the hearers.
2. bless – give grace
3. benefit – encourage to grow
Choosing your words wisely
1. It starts in our minds (mention Gen. 3:1-6)
2. Check your thinking
Phil. 4:8 Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things.
3. Renew your mind
Romans 12:2 And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God.
a. identify an area where you struggle (i.e. complaining)
b. memorize relevant verses to replace current thought patterns
What to do when you mess up
1. Apologize and ask forgiveness
2. Follow God’s example – Extend grace to the people who wrong you
Psalm 86:5 For thou, Lord, art good, and ready to forgive; and plenteous in mercy unto all them that call upon thee.
Eph. 4:32 And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ’s sake hath forgiven you.
Col. 3:13 Forbearing one another, and forgiving one another, if any man have a quarrel against any: even as Christ forgave you, so also do ye.
Conclusion: Every day we get to choose what we say to others and how we respond to them. Staying connected to the Lord and submitting to Him makes it possible for us to be peacemakers in our world. Choose to be a peacemaker today.